--- title: My Girlfriend is Pregnant, Now What? description: Facing an unexpected pregnancy? 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Moments like this can feel overwhelming, confusing, and out of your control. And while you may not control what’s happening, you do have influence. How you respond and support your girlfriend right now can say more about your character than almost any other moment so far. That’s why it’s important to slow down, keep a level head, and respond thoughtfully rather than reacting out of fear or pressure. In this blog, we’ll walk through what she may be feeling, what steps come next, and where you can find support moving forward.   ## Is My Girlfriend Pregnant? Before anything else, it’s important to confirm whether your girlfriend is actually pregnant. If you haven’t already, the first step is taking a pregnancy test. [New Day Women’s Clinic offers free, lab-quality pregnancy tests at no cost to your partner](https://ndwomensclinic.com/free-pregnancy-tests). If the pregnancy test is positive, the next important step is [confirming the pregnancy with an ultrasound](https://ndwomensclinic.com/free-ultrasound). Why does this matter? A pregnancy test only detects pregnancy-related hormones. It doesn’t confirm whether the pregnancy is developing normally or is viable. An ultrasound can provide clarity about how far along the pregnancy is and whether it’s located in the uterus. New Day Women’s Clinic provides free ultrasounds, and you are welcome to attend the appointment with your girlfriend for support.   ### What Not To Do When Your Girlfriend Is Pregnant When unexpected news hits, it’s normal to feel like everything is suddenly out of your hands. How you show up at this time matters deeply. Let’s first discuss what not to do.   ##### 1. Don’t Walk Away. Stress often triggers a fight-or-flight response. You may feel tempted to escape the situation entirely, but now is not the time. Your girlfriend is likely experiencing far more physical and emotional stress than you are. Staying present, even when it’s uncomfortable, makes a difference.   ##### 2. Don’t Fight. Anxiety and fear can easily turn into frustration. Arguments may feel unavoidable when emotions are high, but this isn’t the moment for conflict. Lean into this news with her, providing comfort and understanding along the way.    ##### 3. There's Time. Your role right now is to listen, affirm, and stay steady. You don’t need to solve everything immediately. What she needs most is reassurance that she’s not alone and that you’re willing to walk through this together: one step at a time. There's no rush in making a decision.    #### What Options Are There? There are three main options once a viable pregnancy is determined: continuing the pregnancy and becoming parents, making an adoption plan, or choosing to end the life of the child through abortion. Statistics show that unmarried women with unplanned pregnancies carry to term about 60% and choose abortion about 40% of the time.¹ Abortion is a serious and deeply personal decision. It’s important not to pressure your girlfriend in any direction. Research shows that women who feel pressured into abortion by a partner are at higher risk for long-term emotional distress, including PTSD.² Pressuring her in any way, especially toward abortion, can cause lasting harm. Remind her that she doesn’t have to navigate this decision alone. Open, respectful conversations about values, fears, and the future can help both of you process and make a decision.   #### “I’m Not Ready To Be A Dad.” If this thought keeps running through your mind, you’re not alone. Many men aren’t opposed to fatherhood, they just didn’t expect it to happen *now*. The truth is, no one ever feels fully ready to be a parent. Fatherhood often calls you to grow in ways you didn’t expect: to protect, provide, and mature. You don’t need to have every answer today. You just need to be willing to keep showing up. What makes a great dad isn’t perfection, but commitment, humility, and the willingness to learn. Concerns about finances, freedom, or future plans are real, but they don’t have to define your decision. There are resources available to support you both, and many fears feel smaller once real support is in place. Many men regret walking away from the opportunity to be a father. Very few regret choosing to be one.   ### Support In Wisconsin You don’t have to face this alone. [New Day Women’s Clinic supports both you and your girlfriend](https://ndwomensclinic.com/prenatal-parenting-support) with free, confidential services including pregnancy confirmation, options education, parenting support, material assistance, and referrals for fatherhood mentorship and relationship support. With locations serving Delavan and Whitewater, our team is here to help you take the next step with clarity and confidence at no cost and without pressure.   ### Sources 1. 1\. https://www.guttmacher.org/fact-sheet/unintended-pregnancy-and-abortion-northern-america 2. 2\. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/08862605241253026 ![light logo](https://ndwomensclinic.com/hubfs/light%20logo.svg) **Get In Touch** - [Contact Us](https://ndwomensclinic.com/contact) - [For Donors](https://ndguardians.org/) **Delavan Location** 824 E. Geneva St. Delavan, WI 53115 [Get Directions](https://maps.app.goo.gl/GzMA7xyEXFvnBdUs7) **Whitewater Location** 117 S. Second St. Whitewater, WI 53190 [Get Directions](https://maps.app.goo.gl/Dp6uaXxJ5DnMhcVL6) **Here For You** While New Day Women’s Clinic offers information on the different types of abortions, we do not perform or refer for abortions. Medical services are provided under the direction of: Dr. Chad A. 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