So, You Think She’s Pregnant?
Guys, we’re here to support you, too. You are not alone in this situation. You and your partner can get through this pregnancy together. As stressed out, anxious and scared as you might feel, keep in mind that she is experiencing the same emotions. She needs you. You need each other.
To help you prepare to be there for your partner, we want to give you access to information and resources. If you learn from us, you can help answer many of her questions and give her the support she needs. Here’s some quick advice that may benefit you through your partner’s unplanned pregnancy.
The Do’s
Listen
She is probably scared and uncertain about what the future has in store. She needs someone to trust, someone with whom to share her emotions with. So spend time simply listening to her and making her feel heard.
Stay Calm
You are probably as scared and uncertain as she is. That’s okay – it’s normal. Just do your best and be strong for her. Remaining calm will only benefit the situation.
Discuss the Pregnancy
Talk about the pregnancy with each other and with both of your parents and other people you trust. Hiding the news from people who care about you will only cause you unneeded stress. Share the news and be open to accepting help.
Gather all the Facts
Get all the information you can so you can be a source of knowledge for her. We can help answer all your questions and ensure you have the information you need.
The Don’ts
Don’t Leave
She needs you. She does not want to go through this pregnancy alone and she should not have to do so. You can make the situation better by staying and providing a positive presence on the pregnancy journey.
Don’t Pressure her
Remember that you are a team. Putting pressure on her is bad for both of you. You have a say in this situation, but keep in mind that the decision is ultimately hers to make. Your role is to support her and show her you care.
Your First Steps in Helping Her
The first thing you need to do is to encourage her to find out for sure that she is pregnant. After she has had a positive pregnancy test and ultrasound to verify the pregnancy, you should then learn about your options. We provide free pregnancy testing in our clinic, as well as many support services. We are here to give you the information you both need, so she feels empowered to make her own decision.
New Day Women’s Clinic can help you in a variety of ways, including our parenting classes. You will not be alone as you support her on this pregnancy. We have a curriculum designed specifically for men, along with a team of men from our community, to support you along the way.
We are here for you and your partner. If you have any questions or are in need of our support, feel free to contact us. We will help in any way we can.